I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
Life is not going to be easy, you are going to have problems, you are going to make mistakes and you are going to fall down. Why are these words not etched into the hearts of each and every one of us??? Why do we feel the need to sugar coat everything, tell people constantly that it is all going to be okay??? Now, I am not trying to be a pessimist, I am trying to be a realist. The reality is bad things are going to happen; life is not always going to be perfect because, newsflash, human beings are not perfect. God has not promised us a perfect life!
I am sorry to tell you that, presently, there is no perfect man of God on earth; the only perfect Man of God was Jesus. It is also true that the only perfect baby, child and teenager to ever walk this earth is Jesus. Mary is the only mother that has been blessed by God to raise a perfect child into adulthood. That is not to say that Mary’s life was without trouble or heart ache. As a Mom I know that Mary suffered greatly, she had to watch her baby boy be taunted, whipped, beaten, nailed to a cross and die a horrible death. She had to watch her baby boy pay the price for every sin committed by man. Imagine, if you will or even can, every single thing that a human being has ever done wrong…murders, rapes, child abuse, lies, cheating, spouse abuse, every atrocity known to man, imagine them like arrows striking His body all at the same time. Mary had to watch all of that happen to the tiny baby that she gave birth to 33 years before and there was nothing she could do to stop His pain. She could only watch and trust that the Father of her child would make something beautiful from something so ugly.
Every time life throws us a curve ball we need to remember Mary. We need to remember that even the mother of our Lord and Savior did not live a pain-free life. We need to stop setting ourselves up for the fall because we have wrong expectations of how the Christian life truly looks. We need to start believing in the One that has promised that even though there will be difficult times; He will see us through them. He DOES promise us a “happily ever after”, but it is not promised here on earth. It will happen when He comes again and we will be able to live with Him forever. That is the truth that I will live by here on this earth; I will have trouble, I will not always have a pain-free live…but, I can count on God to get me through! I will rely on His abilities, just like Mary did, to make something beautiful out of my pain.
Prayer for Trust in Jesus
O Christ Jesus,
when all is darkness
and we feel our weakness and helplessness,
give us the sense of Your presence,
Your love, and Your strength.
Help us to have perfect trust
in Your protecting love
and strengthening power,
so that nothing may frighten or worry us,
for, living close to You,
we shall see Your hand,
Your purpose, Your will through all things.
— St. Ignatius of Loyola
When my “happily ever after” feels so far away and when my life starts to feel like there is only pain and sorrow coming my way, remind me of this prayer and these words. Remind me that I do not have to overcome the world, You already did. Remind me of Mary, the Mother of Jesus and how in her darkest hour she trusted her Son to You. Help me to trust like Mary did! In Jesus Name, Amen